Your success with any woman will most surely always rely on your conversational skills. What you tell her and how you tell it is what will eventually convince her that you are worth a go.
With conversation being such an important part of the seduction process it’s vital that you have the right skills. This article is here to show you a few simple to use and easy to remember conversational tips that will greatly improve your game.
1. Be Clear and Concise
This may seem like the most generic and basic type of advice but it’s absolutely vital to your success.
In order to project yourself as a confident person you need to be concise and your speech clear. No woman likes a guy that mumbles, a guy that she can’t understand.
If you find this hard to accomplish because you suffer from some sort of speech impediment then it would be wise to visit a speech therapist to proactively improve the way you communicate with others.
If there’s no speech impediment, this problem can be easily resolved with a lot of practice. Just go out there and talk to a lot of women (try to BE clear when talking), eventually you’ll be great at it.
2. Be Different
I’ve seen a lot of guys that due to their lack of experience, resort to cheesy pick-up lines or use very generic questions or statements when approaching and talking to women.
For example when approaching they use the classical: “Hi, *some compliment here*. Can I buy you a drink?”
Let’s say that even though that’s boring and overused it somehow opens the woman up. Then the guy continues with generic, totally unrelated questions that get him nowhere.
Guy: So what’s your name?
Guy: What do you do for a living?
Girl: I teach art
Guy: So how old are you?
Guy: Where do you live?
Girl: Wtf? 21 questions
You can see how this is wrong on so many levels.
There are a good number of ways to approach girls and open up a conversation. You can find something unique about her appearance and compliment that particular item.
For example: “Hi, I really like your shoes”
Or you can ask her a question about herself, her opinion, about the situation or place.
For example: “Hi, do you know any nice clubs around here?”
Even the traditional introduction will do you good.
“Hi I’m XYZ, I saw you from across the room and I wanted to come over and talk to you, so what’s your name?”
If she’s open about her life, try to differentiate yourself by actually relating to what she’s talking about. Make connections by really listening to her and tell her something that proves it.
Guy: What do you do?
Girl: I teach art in prepschool
Guy: Hmm, isn’t it hard working with kids?
Girl: It can be frustrating sometimes but it’s very rewarding…
Guy: Yes, when I was a kid I bet I frustrated the teacher too
Girl: Haha, we all did that.
Guy: So do you also have your own art?
Girl: Yes, I doo
Guy: That’s cool, what kind of art?
And it goes on and on… As long as you ask another question that seems to be related to the initial question she will never get bored. Don’t jump from what she does to her age etc, keep everything related. If something seems upsetting try to quickly change the subject so she’s constantly feeling good.
This technique will make you stand out and she will be left with a pleasant reminder of you.
3. Be understanding
Apart from keeping everything related you need to constantly appear as if you understand her. Sometimes you will actually understand her but even if you don’t make sure she doesn’t notice it.
I’ve met many men that just plan out a set of questions, basically the whole conversation before they actually meet the woman. Then it just turns into this generic thing that will most likely get her upset or they just spend the time trying to remember the lines instead of actually listening to her and creating an engaging conversation.
This doesn’t just turn her off but will tell her that you’re not a good listener and are only interested in her looks. Plus, so many guys are unable to hold a decent conversation that eventually some women just give up on men. Then, when “good” guys come in she just automatically assumes that they’re the same.
The best thing to do is to just approach with a clear mind and ask her related questions. Then once she replies try to relate to those questions so that she can see that you really understand her.
Guy: So how was your day?
Girl: Today was just horrible; I had to do 5 spreadsheets for this client of mine. I really hate spreadsheets…
Guy: Yeh I know what you mean. I used to work in an office and spreadsheets are actually one of the reasons I left the job…
And it can go on forever. Whatever she says just understand it and try to relate to it in some way. Don’t think of this as just a way to get into her pants.
You’re actually relating to this person and I’m sure that if you think hard enough you can always find something in your life that relates to what she’s talking about.
4. Don’t put them on a pedestal
One of the biggest mistakes many guys make is the fact that they over compliment her until she actually realizes that she can do better.
If you want to be able to talk to gorgeous women, you need to talk to them like normal people because in reality they are normal people. The only one that can warp their self opinion in retrospect with yours is YOU. So keep it normal if you want things to well.
The only difference between very hot women and decent looking women is the fact that very hot women are aware that they are hot. If you keep reminding them of this they will class you as identical to all the other losers that tell her the same thing every day and show you little to no respect.
If you treat her like an equal not only you are treating her different but also she will see you as an equal and will show you the adequate respect.
Remember: Hot women are not aliens from distant stars, they are human being and are definitely NOT cooler than you.
There you have it. Next time you go out make sure you remember these tips and use them wisely. Not only will they help you stand out but also they will help you connect with her at an emotional level, a level most guys never get to.
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