Only 51% of men report to being satisfied with their sex life at the start of a relationship, and that number rises to only to 56% after a year or more. While life can get in the way and a new job, stress with the family, or even a mild change in schedules can throw a wrench into your sexual groove, there doesn’t seem to be any reason that nearly half of men aren’t satisfied with the amount or quality of the sex they’re getting. As we ring in the New Year, it’s time for men to take control of their own sexual happiness, and here are three ways you can achieve better satisfaction without straying from your partner.
Take Matters Into Your Own Hands
Technically, this tip has nothing really to do with your own hands, and that’s what’s so great about it. If you’re feeling sexually frustrated, your partner might pick up on that and begin to withdraw from sexual activity. If it’s just a case of one of you being too tired, stressed or sick for a short period of time, you can spice up your sex life with some toys. Now, bringing toys into the bedroom has long been an expert tip for female satisfaction. While the market for female sex toys is a lot larger than the one for males, there still exist a variety of pleasurable toys that men can use to enhance their experience with and without their partner. Not only is this a great way for you personally to feel satisfied, it’ll take the pressure off your partner for a bit so they can get back to normal.
Stay Active with Your Partner
Psychologists and scientists note that working up a sweat together is a very biological way to enhance the mood. One stress management expert even noted that “Working out together ensures that both libidos and endorphins will be up. Since you’re both already sweating, take it to the next level.” Help your partner stretch and take it from there. Not only is this a great way to engage in activities together outside of the bedroom, but staying active will help you both achieve a healthy, balanced lifestyle that will ensure you’ve got the emotional and physical energy to tend to each other’s needs in the bedroom.
Pleasure Each Other Even When You’re Not Together
If a heavy travel schedule is the reason for your lack of sex, don’t worry, there’s a toy for that, too. The Kiiroo Pearl + Onyx Couple is one of many similar products that are bluetooth compatible and react to your partner’s movements remotely. There’s one toy for the male and one for the female and will allow you to have mind-blowing long-distance sex no matter where you are. Pro tip: use it even when you’re in the same room together and see how long you can go before you have to throw the toys aside and go for your real-life partner.
Get to the Root of the Problem
The bottom line is that, if you’re not satisfied with your sex life, it’s important to figure out why. Whether you’re experiencing low sex drive due to stress or health-related issues, or simply aren’t satisfied with the sex you’re actually getting, figuring out what it is will help you solve the problem. Open, honest communication with your partner will be important as you both navigate the issue together. It’s important to have a realistic mindset of what sex looks like in a long-term relationship, and to be respectful of your partner’s body and opinions. If you’ve got those things covered, there’s no reason why you can’t talk it out and come to some sort of agreement that will lead you to a fiery sex life all year long.