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4 Simple Things You Need To Know When Talking To Women

Sailun Tires

Your success with any woman will most surely always rely on your conversational skills. What you tell her and how you tell it is what will eventually convince her that you are worth a go.

With conversation being such an important part of the seduction process it鈥檚 vital that you have the right skills. This article is here to show you a few simple to use and easy to remember conversational tips that will greatly improve your game.

1. Be Clear and Concise


This may seem like the most generic and basic type of advice but it鈥檚 absolutely vital to your success.

In order to project yourself as a confident person you need to be concise and your speech clear. No woman likes a guy that mumbles, a guy that she can鈥檛 understand.

If you find this hard to accomplish because you suffer from some sort of speech impediment then it would be wise to visit a speech therapist to proactively improve the way you communicate with others.

If there鈥檚 no speech impediment, this problem can be easily resolved with a lot of practice. Just go out there and talk to a lot of women (try to BE clear when talking), eventually you鈥檒l be great at it.

2. Be Different

I鈥檝e seen a lot of guys that due to their lack of experience, resort to cheesy pick-up lines or use very generic questions or statements when approaching and talking to women.

For example when approaching they use the classical: 鈥淗i, *some compliment here*. Can I buy you a drink?鈥

Let鈥檚 say that even though that鈥檚 boring and overused it somehow opens the woman up. Then the guy continues with generic, totally unrelated questions that get him nowhere.


Guy: So what鈥檚 your name?

Girl: Amber

Guy: What do you do for a living?

Girl: I teach art

Guy: So how old are you?

Girl: 23

Guy: Where do you live?

Girl: Wtf? 21 questions

You can see how this is wrong on so many levels.

There are a good number of ways to approach girls and open up a conversation. You can find something unique about her appearance and compliment that particular item.

For example: 鈥淗i, I really like your shoes鈥

Or you can ask her a question about herself, her opinion, about the situation or place.

For example: 鈥淗i, do you know any nice clubs around here?鈥

Even the traditional introduction will do you good.

鈥淗i I鈥檓 XYZ, I saw you from across the room and I wanted to come over and talk to you, so what鈥檚 your name?鈥

If she鈥檚 open about her life, try to differentiate yourself by actually relating to what she鈥檚 talking about. Make connections by really listening to her and tell her something that proves it.

For example:

Guy: What do you do?

Girl: I teach art in prepschool

Guy: Hmm, isn鈥檛 it hard working with kids?

Girl: It can be frustrating sometimes but it鈥檚 very rewarding鈥

Guy: Yes, when I was a kid I bet I frustrated the teacher too

Girl: Haha, we all did that.

Guy: So do you also have your own art?

Girl: Yes, I doo

Guy: That鈥檚 cool, what kind of art?

And it goes on and on鈥 As long as you ask another question that seems to be related to the initial question she will never get bored. Don鈥檛 jump from what she does to her age etc, keep everything related. If something seems upsetting try to quickly change the subject so she鈥檚 constantly feeling good.

This technique will make you stand out and she will be left with a pleasant reminder of you.

3. Be understanding

Apart from keeping everything related you need to constantly appear as if you understand her. Sometimes you will actually understand her but even if you don鈥檛 make sure she doesn鈥檛 notice it.

I鈥檝e met many men that just plan out a set of questions, basically the whole conversation before they actually meet the woman. Then it just turns into this generic thing that will most likely get her upset or they just spend the time trying to remember the lines instead of actually listening to her and creating an engaging conversation.

This doesn鈥檛 just turn her off but will tell her that you鈥檙e not a good listener and are only interested in her looks. Plus, so many guys are unable to hold a decent conversation that eventually some women just give up on men. Then, when 鈥済ood鈥 guys come in she just automatically assumes that they鈥檙e the same.

The best thing to do is to just approach with a clear mind and ask her related questions. Then once she replies try to relate to those questions so that she can see that you really understand her.


Guy: So how was your day?

Girl: Today was just horrible; I had to do 5 spreadsheets for this client of mine. I really hate spreadsheets鈥

Guy: Yeh I know what you mean. I used to work in an office and spreadsheets are actually one of the reasons I left the job鈥

And it can go on forever. Whatever she says just understand it and try to relate to it in some way. Don鈥檛 think of this as just a way to get into her pants.

You鈥檙e actually relating to this person and I鈥檓 sure that if you think hard enough you can always find something in your life that relates to what she鈥檚 talking about.

4. Don鈥檛 put them on a pedestal

One of the biggest mistakes many guys make is the fact that they over compliment her until she actually realizes that she can do better.

If you want to be able to talk to gorgeous women, you need to talk to them like normal people because in reality they are normal people. The only one that can warp their self opinion in retrospect with yours is YOU. So keep it normal if you want things to well.

The only difference between very hot women and decent looking women is the fact that very hot women are aware that they are hot. If you keep reminding them of this they will class you as identical to all the other losers that tell her the same thing every day and show you little to no respect.

If you treat her like an equal not only you are treating her different but also she will see you as an equal and will show you the adequate respect.

Remember: Hot women are not aliens from distant stars, they are human being and are definitely NOT cooler than you.

There you have it. Next time you go out make sure you remember these tips and use them wisely. Not only will they help you stand out but also they will help you connect with her at an emotional level, a level most guys never get to.

This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit 鈥 a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.


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